Why Am I Working So Hard, If Nothing Ever Changes?
Updated: Feb 28, 2021
Have you ever asked yourself, “Why am I working so hard if nothing ever changes?”
In the past, I have thought if I just worked harder and harder and longer and longer, my life would get better and better. Not true. It was time to understand where real transformation comes from. I realized it doesn’t come from what I do. Just working harder isn’t going to get me what I want in life. In fact, working longer hours exhausted me. The harder a person works doesn’t mean they will make more money or live a happier, more fulfilled life.
Transformation starts on the inside. Everything starts from there. It all starts with my thoughts which turn into my beliefs, which determines the type of action I take. Ernest Holmes said, “Life is a mirror and will reflect back to the thinker what he thinks into it”. Have you ever met someone who is working really hard, yet seems to get nowhere? They are just running on the same old treadmill over and over again with no success? Here’s why. Someone can work really hard but if they’re working from a place where their thoughts and beliefs don’t support them, they’re not going to get the results they want.
For example, if you want to start a business but you keep telling yourself you’re a failure and you think about all the past failures, then you’re going to take action that’s based on fear. In your mind, you have already decided it’s not going to work out, so you don’t even try that hard. Then you don’t get the outcome you hope for and that reinforces your beliefs. It becomes a cycle of wrong thinking, turning those thoughts into harmful beliefs, moving you into painful actions, and unwanted results.
Transformation from my mindset is where I need to start. I don’t say, "I’ll believe it when I see it." I say, "I believe it! That’s why I see it!" Transformation - changing beliefs, adjusting mindsets, and shifting consciousness. That transforms everything I do and everything I see!
When something isn’t going my way, I find the gift and blessing in it. I observe my reaction to the situation. Instead of recognizing a failure, I ask myself what I liked, what would I change, and what I would do differently. I remain open-minded. I ask myself, "Who do I need to be in order to have a more desired experience. Who do I need to be right now?" I remain focused, committed, courageous and driven.
I remind myself that I can be what I need to be right now. It’s a choice I can make. I realize it doesn’t matter the external circumstances or what happened in the past. In order to do what I need to do to have what I want, I bring 100% responsibility for what’s happening in my life right now. No blame. No pointing fingers. I remember life is great; life is wonderful; life is amazing. Adopting a new mindset is how transformation starts. It begins with me, on the inside. Everything starts from there. It all starts with my thoughts.
When I can change the inside, I begin to shift and see life -- my life -- in a different way and see it in a way of profound transformation that is life-changing. No longer do I wait for something to change. I make it change!